INTRO

You’re too soft spoken, You need to speak up more, you’ll never buy a house making what you make, you need to be more proactive, you’ll never be able to conceive children, unfortunately we went with another candidate, I am sorry she’s no longer breathing on her own, unfortunately your role was impacted and today will be your last day, as a mother your doing great but you need to do better as a wife, you’re going to interview for a NEW job 8 months pregnant, what makes you think you’ll get lucky twice, wait, you’re going to START a new job 9 months pregnant???

 

These are just some of the things that have been said to me over the years that have shaped me into who I am today. Upon first reading it, it will all sound negative, sad, gut wrenching to hear and don’t get me wrong it was. As I relive some of these comments, I see them way different now. It was the motivation I didn't know I needed. I don't know about you but once someone tells me I can't, I make it my life's mission to prove to them I can, AND DID.

 

I am not writing this to preach to you, I am not writing this for you to learn about a seemingly decent stranger - I am writing this because no one else is. No one talks about IVF, pregnancy, lay-offs, promotions, and job hopping to get your worth as a woman who also dares to have a successful marriage and children all while having a noteworthy career. No one talks about the obstacles women who don’t come from handouts and IVY league backgrounds have to face while trying to get the level of success those who do get. You will not read from the perspective of someone who has it 100% all together and always has, no; like I said I am a normal woman with a normal life who has just been through some shit. 

 

I’ve crashed and burned, I’ve battled postpartum depression, I’ve failed temporarily at marriage, I’ve experienced plenty of setbacks in my career but I’ve overcome all of the above. Everything they said I couldn’t do, I did with a damn good resume and healthy marriage + two kids later. I am sharing my experiences because I am pretty positive you are either going through the same things I once went through or you will at some point and when I looked for advice on the internet or in a book there was no one relatable to me, there was no one who I could take advice from. There were a whole lot of men with advice on how WOMEN should behave both at home and in the workforce and there were alot of older women with outdated advice. So here I am, here to give you the unfiltered truth, real advice and a blueprint to do what people will undoubtedly say you cannot do. 

 

So let’s start from the beginning…